Letter to My Son

My dear Gavin, I am so honored that you are in my life because you have brought so much joy, happiness and purpose to my life over the past 3 years. I’m still working on becoming the women and mother I need to be to mold and shape you into the strong, smart young man that I know you will be one day, thank you for loving me unconditionally anyway. I want so much for you like any mother should; not only do you deserve the best, but you deserve my best.

Now that you are talking, walking, running, jumping and your personality is shaping you’ve made me realize some areas in myself that I need to work on. You’re teaching me more about life than I’ve obviously taught myself. Son, I thank you. One day when your old enough to read this letter and I hope you will not understand, because I would have made the transformation into the woman I hope to be. A woman you can look up to, be proud of, learn from, respect, trust and admire.

I don’t want to fail you son, by being too nice, by letting you get away with things the world won’t allow, by tolerating your misbehavior, because as a black man in this world the odds are against you. So it is my responsibility to buckle down, stand firm, and raise a son who will be able to withstand all of life’s harsh realities, who will understand the true value of hard work, who will embrace education, and who will garner respect and will treat people with respect and the consideration that they deserve.

I can buy you many presents on this day but my ultimate gift to you is to vow to be the mom that you need me to be, so that you can become a great man. Happy 3rd Birthday Son, I love you with all my heart.

The Romance Challenge Day 5

For some of you these tips are just a brush up, an eye opener to others and a savior to some who are looking for a way to rejuvenate a stale relationship. For those who may be reading along but not learning anything new the fact of the matter is, we don't use or do what we did in the beginning of the relationship after some time have passed so this is just a reminder.


Tips 13-15

Do Your Homework: Visit the book store and take a look at the Karma Sutra together and discuss positions you can try when you get home. The internet is another great and free resource where you can explore many new areas and interesting ideas. It's more exciting when you look at together can you can discuss your thoughts together.

Wine & Dine: Prepare an impromptu candlelight dinner at home for your mate on a weeknight with some wine or champagne to toast to a good night. People tend to push everything off to the weekend and then try to cram so much in all at once. Not only is this a bad idea, but you or they will be so tired from regular weekend errands you won't have the energy to pull this off successfully.

Let The Music Play: Instead of going to bed watching TV, let music be your soundtrack. Make a special Ipod mix for the bedroom, or your favorite romantic CD to get the mood right. I have several compilation CD's that I play on my laptop since I don’t own an Ipod. If you choose an individual CD I suggest something like Jazz, Kem, or Sade, because most music CDs are a mixture of up-tempo and smooth music. The wrong song or beat can throw the entire mood off.

So it's been 5 days of juicy tips, I'm wondering how things are working out for you? Leave and anonymous comment if you will please and just let me know your thoughts, reaction and suggestions to my Romance Challenge.

Be sure to read days 1-5 If this is your first time reading.

The Romance Challenge -Are you Down?

Last week I touched on Rekindling the love between you and your mate this week I'm going to get a little more specific with tips and tricks you can use to enhance the romance in your life.

Studies have shown good sex can do wonders in your life so I’m issuing a challenge to whoever is reading this article to follow these simple and surefire suggestions to help get your sexy back in the bedroom and your life back on track. After being in a long term relationship or marriage you can easily let your routine or the busyness of life consume you. I’m here to tell you missionary is just not cutting it anymore. If you agree then keep reading; it gets better.

The key to spicing up your love life is to shake things up a bit. As you spend time with your mate focus on creating new situations and memories you can share. This is definitely not an overnight process, so I’m sharing a few tips over the next 2 weeks that will get you and your mate in the mood and will definitely spice it up inside and out of the bedroom. You can try one tip a day, or as many as you like, just don’t try them all at once.

Remember all of these tips are not meant to end in the bed, but they will definitely enhance your current relationship and love making experiences with your mate. Some of the tips will have to be done multiple times, but in the end you will start reconnecting more and will take each other for granted less. Enjoy!

Tips 1-3
• Get Dressed: Access your current lounge & night wear wardrobe mix it up a wear his/her favorite piece to bed tonight. The bed is a romantic & relaxing place no room for sweats or frumpy seperates.

• Bringing Sexy Back: Introduce a little exercise into your daily routine, your mate will find your new zest for working out irresistibly sexy and your workout will increase your flexibility and endurance. Once that body is toned up the possibilities are limitless.

• Clean It Up: Shave, trim, wax, do what you gotta do for a smooth move. Everyone has there own prefrence so all I'm saying is make sure your legs, underarms and private areas are manicured.

Check Back Tomorrow for tips 4-6. It get's jucier as we go on, but we have to get some preliminaries out of the way first. Don't be afraid to leave an comment :-)

The 10 Friends You Need to Make Before 30

I saw this article on on of my favorite websiste thefriskly.com that I wanted to share with you writen by editor Amelia Mcdonell-Parry Enjoy!

From the time you were in pre-school and your mom picked your playdates, you’ve been building relationships with people. And sometimes, when you have things in common and get along with one another, you become friends. You might think that you have enough friends in your life, but really, can you ever have too many? Plus, you never know when you’re going to need a hand saw, so you better have someone in your cell phone who owns one.

1. The Style Guru
Everyone needs someone who can help them figure out which dress is appropriate “black-tie optional” weddings, and whether you can get away with wearing a green sweater with a red belt. (The answer to the latter is “probably not,” unless you are a Christmas Elf.)

2. The Mr./Ms. Fix-it
You bought a new bike online, but the instructions for putting it together appear to be written in a language you do not speak. It’s time to call the friend who has a knack for building things and owns all the right tools.

3. The Good Time Gal
If you’re feeling antsy with nothing to do on a Friday night, call this friend, who is generally up for doing anything at any time. She’ll cook up plans that involve dancing on banquets or singing Madonna’s “Like A Prayer” in the time it takes you to change out of your work clothes and slap on
a fresh coat of mascara.

4. The Health Nut
During the times when you suddenly decide to start working out or eating food other than take-out and delicacies from the frozen-food aisle, it’s good to have someone who reads every health and fitness magazine and loves to dispense instructions for proper squat form and pass along recipes for protein-rich meals.

5. The Ear
You had a sucky day at work and hate everything in your closet. What do you do? Call the friend who will calmly listen to all of your problems and then, at the appropriate time, give you a few pearls of wisdom.

6. The Do-it-herselfer
Hemming vintage dresses or whipping up a crème brûlée might not come naturally to you, but with the help of a skillful friend, you’ll develop new talents in no time.

7. The Culture Guru
If you like the idea of going to see that new up-and-coming band perform, befriend someone who knows who’s playing and what exhibits are on display.

8. The Healthcare Professional
Make friends with a doctor or nurse. Then, when you wake up with ginormous swollen glands, you won’t have to wait for an appointment to get medicine to cure what ails you.

9. The Legal Adviser
We all make mistakes. A need for speed can lead to you getting pulled over, and a lively party might end with a noise violation. If you have a friend who’s a lawyer, at least you won’t be alone when you have to appear in front of a judge.

10. The Travel Buddy
There are those who like to stay in the same place and find solace in their homes. And there are others who need to get out and explore the world. If you’ve caught the travel bug, find a friend who has it, too. It’s way more fun (and much safer) when you share adventures with someone else.

Sidenote:
I had 4 of the 10 when I was in Atlanta but now that I'm Baton Rouge I guess have to somewhat start over. I should be able to knock this list out in the next 2 years before I'm 30.

No Test, No Testimony

When Diddy coined the phrase “ No B**cha**ness” I used to laugh & think to my self “what a phrase;” but now I truly know the meaning. Yesterday I made a constructive "harmless" comment on a social networking site about an avatar directly to the avatar owner only to receive indirect twitter responses that grew rather disrespectful as time went on. Very unnecessary, might I add.

I’m not a negative person; I am opinionated but not negative. So like a woman I addressed this person in a private email to express my concern with the tactless comments they made and went on with my day.

This incident reminded me of a converstaion I had with some one not to long ago. They  said you have to be careful about the people we allow in our lives, people who speak into our lives down to the music we listen to & TV programs we look at; furthermore the people we converse with or “follow” on social networking sites.

I’m glad I keep good company in real life, but now I will be more cautious of the company I keep & tweet on social networking sites. No one is worth compromising my character for, I’ll be 28 in a few days and its certain things that come with age, and grace is one of them. Now I know what your thinking... that picture is not gracefulful; it's not but it sums up my exact thoughts. I'm still 27 Don't judge me :-) Enjoy your day.

30 Things Every Woman Should Have Before 30

I found this really cute article over at Frisky, it caught my eye and muah will be turning 28 next weekend. I definitely got some catching up to do in the next 2 years according to the list. Happy Friday enjoy the list even if ur over 30.
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Frisky's editor Amelia is turning 30 in a few short weeks and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “30 Before 30” series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy!

1. Clothes that fit the size she is now, not the size she was five years ago
2. A weekly income that covers the rent (or mortgage payment)
3. An orgasm
4. Always enough toilet paper
5. A hair stylist she trusts
6. A favorite song, porn site, image, movie or fantasy that always gets her in the mood
7. Health insurance
8. A signature drink
9. A healthy relationship with her parents
10. Bras in the correct size
11. Enough alcohol in her home to offer drop-by guests a cocktail
12. An emergency hangover remedy
13. A voter registration card
14. A wardrobe that includes the perfectly flattering little black dress, a great pair of heels, jeans that make her ass look great, and a cute hat that hides a bad hair day
15. A yearly appointment with her gynecologist
16. The name of reliable movers to give her friends when they ask for help relocating
17. The gumption to ask a man out
18. A group of girlfriends who get it
19. A set of tools (and the ability to use them ... even if it’s just to hang a piece of art)
20. A balanced checkbook
21. No interest in men who just aren’t that into her
22. A vacation to look forward to at least once a year
23. A good bulls**t detector
24. The courage to stand up for herself and her beliefs
25. A favorite sex position
26. A set of hand towels so guests don’t have dry their hands on her bath towel (gross!)
27. Enough self-love to avoid and break off unhealthy friendships and relationships
28. A commitment to exercise
29. A retirement fund
30. A great vibrator

*And if you’re already past 30, it’s late, but not too late to tackle this list!
Article and picture source Frisky

Discipline: Is Yelling The New Spanking?

I have a very active 2 year old son, and those of you who have met him know exactly the level of energy he has. I will admit I yell at him at times, and I notice he yells at me or at his imaginary friends while playing. I get embarrassed when he does that because I realize he is only mimicking me.

 Gavin Taylor at Chucky Cheese over the Summer

I've tried getting at eye level and talking to him calmly, I've tried time outs, I've tried spankings and he still does not behave the way I think he should. He gives his dad a little less problem, but nerveless he still has issues with him to when it comes to listening. I refer to him as a selective listener, because he listens when he want to.

It's so hard not to get frustrated at a child that you know is smart and understands exactly what you say, but chooses to do what he want to do. The Bible says "Spare the rod, spoil the child" and “Train him up the way he should be taught" but society says otherwise, so what is a parent to do? I recently came across this video on CNN, and posted it because I want to know what other parents think about discipline methods especially what is appropriate for a 2 ½ yr old.

Is Yelling The New Spanking Discussion on CNN

Where are Our News Stories? Please Read & Share

A few weeks ago I posted a story on missing California woman Miltrice Richardson who was released from a detention center in the middle of the night and never seen again. It has been over a month and to my knowledge this young lady has yet to be found. In early October her parents were asking for the FBI to get involved with this case, as of post time I did not find any official documents that said they had taken on the case.

I’m saddened because we have allowed our media, yes “OUR” because we shape what they cover; no complaints and they will continue to disregard our news stories that are not sports or entertainment related when it comes to “African Americans.” This is disgraceful, when Lacy Peterson, Casey Anthony, Sommer Johnson, Natalie Holloway, Balloon Boy went missing we are bombarded with story after story of news coverage on every station. As if these people lives or more valuable than the black children and adults that go missing daily.

Did you know there where 10 black women missing or dead, in Rocky Mount NC, me either until I read a story on Newsweek on Friday. If we don’t stand up for something what will we stand up for. When it’s your family of friend you are going to want equal coverage as well, so we can not just sit around and wait until that day comes. We only have 2 AA stations BET & Tvone and neither of them have a daily full coverage news program regretfully. I know there is more going on in Black America than a “Black in America” Special on CNN once a year.

We have specific health issues, financial matters, missing people, crimes, grants and programs, education, business, politics, entertainment, concerns just as the rest of the world. If Telemundo and the 42 other Hispanic channels can have several news programs and we don’t have 1 as a people we should truly be ashamed. Where are our priorities my people?

I’m frustrated as you can probably tell with my writing so I’m going to ring this in. We really need to analyze what we stand for in our country. We have a black President, a Latino Supreme Court Justice, Top Athletes & Entertainers, Top Movie producers and Execs and this is what we are settling for. Wendy Williams, Tyra Banks, Oprah, & Monique Congrats to you sisters, but the bus should not just stop there.

Anyone with information regarding the whereabouts of Miltrice Richardson is asked to call the LAPD Missing Persons Unit, Detective Kristin Merrill at (213) 485-5381. After-hours or on weekends, calls may be directed to a 24-hour, toll free number at 1-877-LAPD-24-7 (527-3247). Callers may also text “crimes” with a cell phone or log on to www.lapdonline.org and click on web tips. When using a cell phone all messages should begin with “LAPD.” Tipsters may remain anonymous

In Case You Forgot what Obama Has Done for Us Lately

The Obamas leaving church Sunday Oct 11, 2009

Following last weeks announcement of Barack Obama’s Nobel Peace Prize win, a lot of people came out of the woodwork with negative reactions and responses as to why he shouldn’t receive the award. Immediately I wanted to go off, because I personally am sick and tired of people disrespecting our president, belittling him, and always looking for something negative to say about him. I commend President Obama on being the FIRST black President of the United states, for bring races together and for bringing out the true racist characteristics of those who have been racist all along.


People can say what they want about former President Bush & the rest of them but the fact remains that World Health Organization’s report that ranks the U.S. 37 of 39 industrialized countries. The same report shows that we have more people dying of curable diseases than Canada, France and England. This is not President’s Obama’s fault; he is the one actually trying to do something about this epidemic.

In a mere 9 mine months these are some of the things he accomplished as President:
• Pulled the economy back from the brink of depression. Continued President Bush’s bank bailout/stimulus programs.
• Began the process of reforming health care in this country.
• Signed the Lily Ledbetter fair-pay law that finally gives parity to women in employment.
• Expanded the SCHIP children’s health program.
• Began funding embryonic stem-cell research.
• Saved the American car industry.
• Began closure of the detention center at Guantanamo Bay Naval Station in Cuba.
• Began turning Iraq over to the Iraqis.
• Started long-overdue work on climate change.
• Appointed a Supreme Court justice  the first woman and Hispanic.
• Opened dialogue with countries previously ignored.
• Organized meeting with Israeli and Palestinian representatives.
• Gained the support of the Russians in the Iran nuclear standoff.
• Presided over the United Nations Security Council, the first American president to do so.
• Met with the president of Iran, first time in 30 years.
• Serving as a great role model for the black family and all other families.


I think his black side and his white side has done a great job so far. Of course I don’t agree with every single decision or statement that he has made, but I do RESPECT him for what he has done and won’t simply stand by and let people belittle his accomplishments. Be proud of your President, I am.

Will You Be My Friend? Circle Yes or No

I’m enjoying being in a new city, I’m just wondering what’s the best way to make new friends as an adult.


Most of my friends I’ve had for years, some for over 20 years and I’m only 27. Your old friends know who you are, they have a little history on you, they know my family etc. When you meet someone new at my age are you suppose to give them a crash course on your life? I don’t want to have to tell my life story to every person I meet, but I do want to make a connection with some ladies in this city. Even if I tell them my back story as a writer, blogger, graphic designer, marketing consultant, former owner of a magazine, from New Jersey but lived in Atlanta for 9 years and San Antonio for 2 years before that; will they be able to identify, respect or understand who I am. Ok, I might be jumping the gun a little, of course I don’t have to tell them all of that at first sight, but that’s who I am, in addition to being a mother and a fiancé.

Being in Atlanta, there are tons of upwardly mobile people, so It was easy to find things in common with these women; unfortunately I have yet to see that same type of entrepreneurial spirit here. Most of the women are heavy into sports, nightclubs, rodeos and racetracks. Don’t get me wrong I can see the excitement in some of that, we went to the horse racetrack on Saturday and I had a great time. But where are my fashionistas, business divas, and savvy mommies at in Baton Rouge?

Thankfully the women that I’ve come across at stores, restaurants, the salon and my fiancés friends wives have all had warm spirits, but after a little small talk I wasn’t sure that we had to much in common. When I tell them I moved here from Atlanta, they look at me like I have 4 heads like “why would you do that” LOL.

I have met a few people on twitter from the area that I recently began socializing with and I’m excited to see how those relationship develop. Outside of that I’m sort of left scratching my head. I know it’s only been a week so help me out do you have any suggestions on how I can make new friends?

Shopping While Black?

Earlier this year ABC aired a social experiment on racial profiling while shopping. Hold on to your pearls while you watch this video but be mindful most of the players are actors. Even though this is a social experiment, I'm sure some people out there have experienced this type of shopping while black racism. Later on this week I will share with you, some of the racism I've experienced here in Louisiana and I will touch on the racism that has resurged since Barack Obam made it into office.

When Oppurtunity Knocks, I'm Ready

It’s a heavy burden to carry when you have a child relying on you to provide for, a man who is expecting you to be the woman he knows you can be, or being that daughter your parents can be proud of. I’ve heard men say they have the weight of the world on their shoulders, but let me tell you that is an extremely heavy feeling. Now that I am in a new city and getting back in the game, I will keep praying that the right opportunity will come my way.

I want my website to be transparent, a little different from some other blogs. I peak into the lives of celebs, but I also want to give you a peak into my life. Let’s be honest running a business is not always peaches and cream. You have highs and lows like anything else in life. It’s what you turn to during those periods that matter most.

A lot of business websites I visit, only reveal the glorious side but where do you turn for the not so good moments. No one writes about how you’ve been waiting on a client check to come in the mail so you can pay a bill, or what to do when no checks are coming in the door at all. If you have a big business you might not be able to identify with these problems, excuse me while I talk with us little people.

It’s my goal to deliver rich content that can not only entertain you, but can help you through the good times and motivate you during the bad times. I first hand understand, but I’m on my way back up; are you coming with me?

Would You Give Up QT with your mate for your Cell Phone

Recently a survey done in Denver found that 33 percent of Denver-area women would put their sex lives on hold for a year in order to use a mobile device. Hmm this got me thinking, I'll be the first to admit I'm a cellphone-a-hollic. Its the last thing I'm on at night, often checking twitter or email and playing bejeweld. It's the first thing I grab for when I wake up in the morning and it's constantly by my side during the day, but I don’t think I would give up love making for my device. I can spare 30-45 minutes a day, especially a night cap.


Do I care about my cell phone more than my boyfriend of course not. Could I leave the house without it and not panic, of course not. It's a love hate relationship with my phone and QT time. My fiancé joined twitter 2 months ago to see why I was always on there so much. since he's not a techy he has less that 5 twitter friends and doesn't have a real clue on what twitter is all about.

The survey, conducted in September by Samsung Mobile, also found that only 20 percent of men would make the same choice. I can definitely understand that, since most men think about "doing the do" every chance they get.

I love my Roll But....

I love my roll but, I don’t think I would be on the cover of any magazine naked; with clothes on absolutely. I'm not the size 6 that I used to be regretfully, but I'm ok with my size 10/12 frame. Personally I would atleast like to drop 15-20 pounds, so I can be healthier for my height and so my clothes will lay better.

Most people always say oh you don't look like you weigh ... That's because I know how to dress for my size, my mother always taught me no one else needs to see your rolls while you have on clothes. So I live by that mantra, If I see a roll through my clothes, I put on a better under garment or change my complete outfit.

I'm all for women with curves because that's naturally feminine to me and that’s what I grew up around. Box or straight up and down is abnormal to me, but society tells us otherwise. In the November Issue of Glamour, they feature 7 beautiful models on the cover who are considered plus size (12 & up)

Models from Oh Wow, These Bodies Are beautiful in Nov Glamour Mag

Beautiful picture, my only gripe is why did they have to be naked? Nudity in magazines always gets people talking, so it’s likely the women wore their birthday suits as a publicity move. Or perhaps the models didn’t wear clothes because fashion companies, except for plus-size brands, don’t make clothes that fit them properly. Personally I don't consider my self plus size, I can still shop in regular stores but if I don't loose a few pounds, my choices will be limited by the brands I love to wear. Thank God, one of my favorite stores, Forever 21 extended there size range but the line is only carried in select stores. Check out the full interview with these ladies in Novembers’ Glamour.

In Case You Missed It: Nas talks with CNN's Don Lemon

CNN took some time out to speak with Nas about his community stand after the violent beating death of Chicago teenager, Derrion Albert. As previously reported, Nas tried to relate to the youth involved in the homicide by penning an ‘Open Letter To Young Warriors'. Now just days later Young Escobar made an appearance on CNN to talk further about the situation with correspondent, Don Lemon.

The casual meeting between the two appeared as though it would be another opportunity to talk about Nas's compelling opinion on the tragic situation, but unfortunately for him the network had other plans. The media giant didn't miss the opportunity to fire a few shots at the artist and emphasized some of the most violent lyrics he'd ever written. They opened up the segment with a playback of “Shoot Em Up” from his Nastradamus album and displayed the lyrics to the chorus that say,

“Shoot em up, just shoot em up, what…kill kill kill, murder, murder, murder.”

Following that Lemon cut to the chase and asked him about glorifying violence in his music. Obviously on the defensive, he answered saying:

“I feel it's the obvious thing for the media to kinda point out one of the most violent lyrical records that I made….I made a lot of records about children…not a lot but I made records about children, about struggle and those are never the songs that are talked about. There's no love for these songs. There's only attention put on the songs where there's violence in it but the reality of it is, I'm only speaking about reality.”

When asked by Lemon if he would consider changing some of his lyrics, he stayed true to himself and stayed 100% honest saying:

“Never. Never. Music comes from life. I write about what I see. I write about what I live. I write about what I see other people live and I use a little bit of imagination to talk to them.”

Continuing on his rant, he eventually made the most quotable statement of the night when he so boldly said,

“A rap song influencing violence in the 21st century is a joke.”

A joke Nas? Really?
The correspondent continued grilling the MC for the rest of the interview, even asking a valid question about why Chicago lyricists like Kanye and Common haven't spoken out on the situation before ending the conversation.

Check out the interview here.



Source HipHopWired.com

What is Good Hair to You? Join the debate

Good Hair hits Theatres Oct 9th in select cities

I saw the preview in the movies for this last month; I'm kind of on the fence about seeing it though. I laughed when I watched the trailer because Chris Rock is funny; I just don't know if the release of this info is going to stop me from using relaxer. It's like telling a drug addict to stop using drugs because it kills you; they already know the consequences.

My Hair Perm Free before I cut it

I only perm my hair 4 times a year to remove the frizziness because I actually do have good hair, but not even a Dominican blow out can stop frizz like a perm can. When I use to wear my hair natural without a relaxer it was so dry and brittle, it broke off, even after using countless moisturizing products that just didn’t work for me. Personally, I just want frizz free and moisturized hair whether it's natural or straight and relaxer helps me accomplish this.

My hair after cut & perm since Feb 09

Are you going to go see this movie? What are your personal thoughts or experiences on perm vs. going natural? Do you think relaxer is a necessary evil? I would love to hear what you think.

Destroying the Legacy of the King Family

Dr. King had a dream that his four children would one day be judged by the content of there character. His dream is being fulfilled, but not the way he would have wanted it to be. According to CNN Rev. Bernice King and Martin Luther King III allege Dexter King took “substantial funds” out of Coretta Scott King’s estate and “wrongfully appropriated” money from their father’s estate. Dexter King is denying these accusations and they are battling it out in the Fulton County court system. This week the judge rightfully ordered the siblings to resolve this matter in a meting outside of the courts. I do not know what will come of this matter, but I sincerely hope they will not continue to destroy their family legacy.

Dr. King & Coretta S. King with children in better days

I selected a few words from Dr Kings "I Have a Dream" speech that his children need to listen to; I pray that they can resolve this issue outside of the public eye as the judge ordered. If not for there selves, for the hard work and justice there parents fought and eventually died for.

Selections from I Have a Dream speech:

"But there is something that I must say to my people, who stand on the warm threshold which leads into the palace of justice: In the process of gaining our rightful place, we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred. We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again, we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force......

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character."

Who is Peeking in Your Window?

Not to long ago, I posted a statement on my twitter that stated “I wouldn’t wish fame on anyone I love.” Many people might not agree with that comment because fame is associated with wealth and popularity. What is also associated with but overlooked is the lack of privacy and scrutiny from any and everybody. I’m sorry but fame is not worth my peace of mind. No one deserves to be treated and poked at like a caged animal, but that’s how we often treat celebrities that share there talents with us that we claim to love.

Knowing that it still amazes me that people still thirst for that level of stardom knowing that one day they may be under the same microscope that stars like Rhianna, Chirs Brown, Serena Williams, Kanye West, Micheal Jackson, Lauren Hill, and Whitney Houston have been under. Can you imagine a day under that type of microscope? Can you imagine the mindset you would need to be able to cope with that everyday?

I mean even when it comes down to the President, everything he says or does is magnified. Yesterday an off the record statement made national headlines. People speculate about the body language of their kids and even his own wife Michelle Obama towards her husband. What she chooses to wear, or what they eat is not relevant to their job performance.

Halle Berry @ the zoo with her daughter & mom

The same goes for celebrities what they do in there personal time at some point should be respected and kept private. If some of your bosses see how you act on the weekend or around our friends and family a lot of people would be out of a job. But it’s not about your personal life its about your performance during work hours. Celebrities and Politicians deserve days off to, even though they choose that life. No one can be on 24 hrs, 7 days a week and not screw up something, right?  So I think we should try to at least keep that into perspective the next time we go to point the finger. Point it back at yourself first, you've probably done something just as bad or maybe even worse.

Amy Winehouse

At any rate I do understand this is a blog, I do have an opinion and I will re-act to something’s these stars do. But I am going to whole heartedly try not to be another negative, finger pointing person on my blog. I will be opinionated and share my views, but I don’t want to cause hurt with my words or interpretation of anyone else’s situation or be the source of there pain.